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Creating a Home That Feels Like a Hug: The Heart of Downsizing for Loved Ones

Want to know the secret to making ANY space feel like home sweet home? It’s all about the heart! 💖

When a parent moves to assisted living, it’s more than just a change of address – it’s an emotional journey. Sorting through a lifetime of belongings, deciding what to keep, what to let go, and what will make their new space feel like home... it’s not easy. I know this from personal experience, and through my work guiding families through this transition. But here’s what I’ve learned: home isn’t about size or things – it’s about love, memories, and those little touches that bring comfort. 💞

### 💡 Focusing on What Matters: Bringing the Heart to Their New Home

When helping a loved one downsize, the key is to focus on meaningful items – those that hold memories, bring joy, or simply make them feel at home. Here are some ideas to keep the heart at the center of this transition:

- Cozy Corners for Relaxation: Make sure there’s a comfortable chair for reading or resting 📚, with a soft blanket 🛋️ they can wrap themselves in. These little comforts are important, especially in a new space.

- Photos and Familiar Smiles: Include framed photos of family, friends, and favorite places. Familiar faces bring instant warmth and joy, even in an unfamiliar environment.

- Greenery and Fresh Blooms: Potted plants or a vase of fresh flowers 🌸 can brighten their space and their spirits. Plants add life and make a room feel vibrant and welcoming.

### 🏡 The Essence of Home: It’s About Memories, Not Replication

Moving into a new space doesn’t mean you have to recreate their old home. Instead, it’s about capturing the essence of what made it warm, inviting, and uniquely theirs. Maybe it’s that teapot they always used for Sunday afternoon tea 🫖, or the collection of plates that seems small to you but represents a lifetime of travel and memories.

Talk to them about the things they cherish – why they kept them, the memories they hold. These items might look like “things” to an outsider, but for your loved one, they’re the reminders of who they are, where they’ve been, and the life they’ve built.

### 🤗 Leading with Love: Why Empathy Makes the Biggest Difference

I’ve been on this journey with my own family, and I understand how overwhelming it can feel. We all want to create the “perfect” environment for our parents. But the truth is, if we lead with love, we can’t go wrong. 💞 Focus on the feelings and comfort that each piece brings, rather than recreating every detail of their past home. A space filled with love will always feel like home.

### ❤️ My Mission: Helping Families Create New Spaces with Heart

In my work, I focus on guiding clients through every step of the journey. From selling a family home to helping them settle into a new, right-sized space, my goal is always to create a home filled with heart, warmth, and comfort – a place where they can truly feel at ease, no matter the size or square footage. 🏠💖

### 📬 Feeling Unsure? Let’s Navigate This Together 🌟

Are you helping a parent through this transition and feeling unsure where to start? Reach out to me – I’m here to listen, support, and help you make their new space feel like a big, warm hug every time they walk through the door. Together, we can make this journey smoother and filled with love. Send me a message, and let’s chat about how we can create a home that feels just right. 💌

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Downsizing Your Home: Embracing the Chaos (with a Smile)

When you first think about downsizing, you might feel a mix of excitement and sheer terror. Sure, the idea of a smaller, simpler space sounds lovely, but then you glance around at your current home and wonder, “Where do I even start?”

Don't worry—I've been there. I once had to pull a horse trailer loaded with my parents’ plants, furniture, and who-knows-what-else. I know the stress, the mess, and the blame games. Let’s turn this chaotic journey into an adventure!

1. Assess Your Current Situation

Let’s start with a little “home audit.” Take a walk around and be honest—how much of this stuff do you actually use? Do you really need four cheese graters? (I’m guilty too.) Think about how well your current home works for you now. Are you really enjoying climbing those stairs? Or is that daily stair workout getting old?

2. Define Your Downsizing Goals

So, why are you thinking about downsizing? Is it to have fewer things to dust? A shorter lawn to mow? Or maybe it’s simply to stop paying for square footage you only use to store stuff you forgot you had. Let’s be clear about what you want—be it more walks in the park or a garden that fits in a single pot.

Common Downsizing Goals:

  • Less time scrubbing floors, more time sipping coffee.

  • Fewer rooms to clean, more rooms to breathe.

  • Releasing equity, gaining freedom—because travel is better than a large utility bill.

3. Develop a Game Plan (And Have Some Fun With It)

Here’s where we put together the plan. Imagine it like your own personal HGTV show—minus the dramatic music and deadlines. The focus is on tackling one room at a time. And hey, you might even find that long-lost wedding gift you never used!

Steps for a Smoother Transition:

  • Declutter: Have a good chuckle over things you’ve kept for no reason. Do you really need that 1985 souvenir mug?

  • Tidy Up: You’d be amazed how much better a room looks with half the stuff gone.

  • Fix it Up: We’ll make a few repairs here and there to get your home ready for its big close-up.

4. Build Your “Downsizing Dream Team”

Moving is a lot like a group project—except this time, everyone needs to pull their weight. You’ll need:

  • An Experienced Realtor®: (I know a good one, wink, wink.) Someone who gets what it’s like to sell your memories along with your house.

  • Home Stager: Yes, your place is already lovely, but they know how to make it look like a magazine spread.

  • Financial Advisor: So you don’t get too carried away planning that trip to Spain before your place even sells.

5. Ready, Set, Go!

It’s time to make things happen. Decluttering doesn’t have to be all serious—invite a friend, grab some wine, and make it fun! When you find something absurd (like that “World’s Best Dad” trophy from 1978), share a laugh and move on.

Get those essential repairs done (or hire someone who will). Remember, this is about creating a space that buyers can imagine living in without your collection of ceramic frogs.

6. Find Your Next Perfect Home

Let’s get excited! Your new space will be more than just a house—it’s the next chapter of your story. We’ll tour places that fit your wish list, whether it’s a cozy condo with zero yard work or a cottage closer to the grandkids.

7. Prepare for the Move (a.k.a. Controlled Chaos)

Yes, moving day will be chaotic, but let’s make it a controlled chaos. Hire movers, packers, or that one friend who actually likes sorting through boxes. Keep a sense of humor—when you end up with six boxes labeled “miscellaneous,” just laugh.

8. Settle In and Love It

After the dust settles (literally), make this new space yours. Hang those photos, plant those flowers, and set up that cozy reading nook you’ve always wanted. This is your space, your new adventure, and it's going to be fabulous.

Remember, downsizing isn’t just about getting rid of stuff—it’s about gaining a life you can manage easily and enjoy fully. And if you’re helping a loved one through this process, expect a few debates about which tea set to keep, but know you’re making a big difference for them.


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It is not easy to merge two families with kids. Separate households, different ways of doing things, different clutter levels, and expectations. However, you have met each other and have decided it’s time to move forward with your relationship and you are ready to buy a home to share. 

A few things to think about.
1. If you are legally married you will be protected by the Dower Act, “Under the Dower Act, neither spouse may sell or mortgage the homestead without the other’s written consent.”. (Edmonton Community Legal Centre, 2022).

2. If you are moving in together and both are going to be on the land title, (the ownership document which registers and shows ownership of property in Alberta), there are different ways to structure. For instance, you could meet with a lawyer and at the same time complete your Wills and Personal Directives (more on these another time), to ensure you are understanding each other’s wishes with the estate if something should happen. You may want to each seek out independent legal advice before moving forward and have candid discussions on what each of you is understanding and wants before moving in together. Better to get on the same page prior.

3. If you have children there are added things to think about, take some time and review the commitments needed, for instance, sports, hobbies, schooling needs, along with the logistics of getting ready in the morning, and how many bathrooms would be ideal?

What kind of kitchen would work best? In my little kitchen, it gets a little busy if we are all in there at 530 am and trying to pack our favourite lunch, make tea, coffee, well you get it.

4. How many bedrooms will you need, are the children staying part-time with you or full-time? How will this be managed?
Open, honest discussions are the best way to ensure that your expectations of what you believe your life will look like will help with the transition.

5. Do you have existing properties to sell? How much are they worth in the current market? Is it better to rent one of them out? You may be able to claim part of the rent to assist with qualifying for a new loan.
6. Will you both qualify for a mortgage? Have you checked your credit reports lately, and have you been open and honest with each other about your financial stability? It would be awful to find out that your partner has 17 credit cards maxed out when you find your dream home. I am exaggerating but I think you understand what I mean. Ensure you get pre-approved, and reach out to a mortgage broker or specialist to assist. I work with many fabulous ones and I can help you find one to match your needs.

Message me if you would like my complete Systems Approach Method manual to get started.

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